When I really think about what I want my work to be, I realised that it wasn’t about the physical body, it is about the feeling that we can create for ourselves through our personal experiences. I wanted to create a sisterhood that includes everyone: so let’s talk about exactly what that means. Being confident to me means I feel comfortable in my own skin, and I don’t mean by my appearance, it’s about the feelings I have or the decisions I make. It is also the awareness and understanding that what I once felt confident about will change on the daily, even looking back at when I first qualified as a Yoga teacher, I am just not that person anymore. I applaud social media for all of the awesome men and women out there getting their message out and genuinely trying to inspire people because they care about others. Yet with every day, there comes the night, and there is a dark side to this that I want to call out as it is excluding people, again.
When I see posts from people screaming and swearing: never let anyone tell you anything you don’t want to hear, don’t give a sh*t about anyone else, if someone is depressed stay away from them, (I have genuinely seen this one) it makes a part of me so sad. It is the biggest contradiction out there right now and it isn’t confidence, it is pure arrogance, not inspiring or aspirational in the slightest and shows no compassion as a human being. I know that trying to navigate your way around Instagrams 700th algorithm and trying to find what is working to captivate your audience is hard but come on, encouraging arrogance which is essentially negative behaviour towards others is not the way to do it. What’s more, it is starting to encourage people to outdo each other, which is essentially coming full circle to what the message was supposed to be about in the beginning.
I know that sounds negative, and it is not meant to. I am reaching out to those who have been scrolling through Instagram, 52 weeks deep into someone’s page and have been made to feel less than worthy because YOU ARE WORTHY. What really concerns me is the younger people that are following us, we have a responsibility to them. I have taught over 4,500 children mindfulness in schools every week and it is a huge part of my understanding to learn what affects them both in and out of school and what needs to be changed.
A final thought is perhaps it all comes down to being confident with the journey and path of your life, that means accepting that it is not all positive and that you are growing every day, even if you cannot see it right now. There will come a day when you look back at the person you used to be and want to tell her/him how far they have come, how amazing you have done, and how much you wish they hadn’t worried. I am in my 30’s and I have never felt more confident, yet I know that how I feel next year will make this look like it is the beginning: and how awesome is that! Who knows, I may even read this piece back in a year and cringe, but right now, today, this is what I want to say and I hope you all see the light and not the dark in your journey too.